GOOD KENYAN MEN...MY TAKE

So as you drive to work; call ur gals n catch up; open ur Weekend newspaper pullouts...the story is the same...My guy is doin me wrong...He's Kenyan...Have u ever wondered if you are the problem? MY attitude? Well I bought into this psychology too until oneday as ma gal likes to tell me I Need to look within and wake up from fairyland.
A few days ago I read a piece by Philip Mwaniki and he had a point that how can we demand to be treated like the Queens we are and in the same breathe jump up on stage and let a strange man defile me and demean me. If I want respect, I have to respect myself first is wat I got from Philip.
Armed with this info I sat in my neighbours' kitchen observing to women who I call my friends prepare soul food. This aint a cliche, it's a Sunday evenin, they are gorgeous beautiful educated women but instead of hanging out at a lounge; not that they don't go out occassionally; they were preparing chicken, chapatis and mahamris from scratch. It aint that they do not have children or help it is because they want to and are doin it with ease and with a smile....as they tell me as it is...do not envy our marriages thinking it came to us....u have to work at it consistently...that's the pride of a woman...and looking around their kitchens full of used appliances...you can tell it is true...
I then decided if they are married and happy then they must be doing something right and they were able to identify their good Kenyan men...and thus we need stop generalizing and give our guys a break...I think it is time we Kenyan women took a backseat and went back to the drawing table as my good friend pointed out that we complain yet when they meet foreign women from neighbouring countries they are taken....
I am no expert jus a single Kenyan gal lookin for answers but I think im onto something...it may not be all bout being seen in the right places, the good job and other worldy traps...but 'utu' wa mtu and BEING THE WOMAN YOU WERE MEANT TO BE AND PROUD OF IT....o and funny thing when you change your attitude u realize around you, you start noticing GOOD Kenyan Men