So as you drive to work; call ur gals n catch up; open ur Weekend newspaper pullouts...the story is the same...My guy is doin me wrong...He's Kenyan...Have u ever wondered if you are the problem? MY attitude? Well I bought into this psychology too until oneday as ma gal likes to tell me I Need to look within and wake up from fairyland.
A few days ago I read a piece by Philip Mwaniki and he had a point that how can we demand to be treated like the Queens we are and in the same breathe jump up on stage and let a strange man defile me and demean me. If I want respect, I have to respect myself first is wat I got from Philip.
Armed with this info I sat in my neighbours' kitchen observing to women who I call my friends prepare soul food. This aint a cliche, it's a Sunday evenin, they are gorgeous beautiful educated women but instead of hanging out at a lounge; not that they don't go out occassionally; they were preparing chicken, chapatis and mahamris from scratch. It aint that they do not have children or help it is because they want to and are doin it with ease and with a smile....as they tell me as it is...do not envy our marriages thinking it came to us....u have to work at it consistently...that's the pride of a woman...and looking around their kitchens full of used appliances...you can tell it is true...
I then decided if they are married and happy then they must be doing something right and they were able to identify their good Kenyan men...and thus we need stop generalizing and give our guys a break...I think it is time we Kenyan women took a backseat and went back to the drawing table as my good friend pointed out that we complain yet when they meet foreign women from neighbouring countries they are taken....
I am no expert jus a single Kenyan gal lookin for answers but I think im onto something...it may not be all bout being seen in the right places, the good job and other worldy traps...but 'utu' wa mtu and BEING THE WOMAN YOU WERE MEANT TO BE AND PROUD OF IT....o and funny thing when you change your attitude u realize around you, you start noticing GOOD Kenyan Men
Tuesday, March 22, 2016
Thursday, April 18, 2013
Sexy Fun and Fearless 31
So I am 31 and a day old...Feels good as my Bday month started on a high note as 1st of April I woke up in the Maasai Mara...Sekenani Camp...that I was there this year I would say was very poignant and a homecoming as my country had held a peaceful election on March 4th and despite controversy surrounding the exercise...Kenya had come of age and getting ready for swearing in of its fourth President. The last time I had been to Mara was just after the controversial elections of 2007 that was followed by bloodsh to ed and tribbal fighting. Tourists were nowhere to be seen and the Mara was desserted. That I returned when there was some semblance of hope for a brighter future...felt good.
My personal journey of self discovery is ongoing but begun in January 2009 when I embarked on the unknown and moved away from my comfort zone. I for the first time face hurdles that looking back now have refined me not defined me.
When I say I am happy; When I smile, Guess what it is for Real and not an act to camouflage pain. As when in pain now I face it head on cry and move on. Life is that simple as I no longer have to put a front and I now know and say NO. I am also not afraid to go after what I like want or need, as I am confident and comfortable in my own skin and fearless. Yes Fearless. One has to grab life with its Kahonness if you want enjoy it and live it to the fullest.
Yesterday I had a lovely conversation with a former schoolmate who was a class behind me but told me he remembers a speech I gave in 2000. He said I had passion and on fire. And I took a pause and realized that is how I feel right now...TOP of My Game Passionate about my job and what I am doing and Loving and excelling in it. That I joined a start up in Kenya and now we have grown to a team of three the sky is the limit and I am proud of it.
In the news biz one has to be on their toes and ahead of the pack...and I am doing that in my peep toe 4 inch heels.
As I usher in another year I know it is going to be the biggest ever as activate several projects and take on new challenges. Lookin forward to new challenges n charting the way forward to new heights.
In matters family never have I felt close to my folks and siblings...I have a secure veil around me full of love that includes my loving and supportive extended family that I am getting to know.
As for dating hmmm...very soon shall reveal and lookin forward to big day, family and kids...yes kids...and yes I can cook and run a home in heels:-)
For now I wanna leave you with a few words:
#Life is bout choices consistency focus n hardwork si kuangukia
#Men have an important #role to play in our lives but so do we kila mtu ako na kazi yake tusije tukakosana bure
it is indeed #ThankfulThursday wow I lived to c today many didn't so if feeling down rem that n be grateful to Him our Father xxx
So I am 31 and a day old...Feels good as my Bday month started on a high note as 1st of April I woke up in the Maasai Mara...Sekenani Camp...that I was there this year I would say was very poignant and a homecoming as my country had held a peaceful election on March 4th and despite controversy surrounding the exercise...Kenya had come of age and getting ready for swearing in of its fourth President. The last time I had been to Mara was just after the controversial elections of 2007 that was followed by bloodsh to ed and tribbal fighting. Tourists were nowhere to be seen and the Mara was desserted. That I returned when there was some semblance of hope for a brighter future...felt good.
My personal journey of self discovery is ongoing but begun in January 2009 when I embarked on the unknown and moved away from my comfort zone. I for the first time face hurdles that looking back now have refined me not defined me.
When I say I am happy; When I smile, Guess what it is for Real and not an act to camouflage pain. As when in pain now I face it head on cry and move on. Life is that simple as I no longer have to put a front and I now know and say NO. I am also not afraid to go after what I like want or need, as I am confident and comfortable in my own skin and fearless. Yes Fearless. One has to grab life with its Kahonness if you want enjoy it and live it to the fullest.
Yesterday I had a lovely conversation with a former schoolmate who was a class behind me but told me he remembers a speech I gave in 2000. He said I had passion and on fire. And I took a pause and realized that is how I feel right now...TOP of My Game Passionate about my job and what I am doing and Loving and excelling in it. That I joined a start up in Kenya and now we have grown to a team of three the sky is the limit and I am proud of it.
In the news biz one has to be on their toes and ahead of the pack...and I am doing that in my peep toe 4 inch heels.
As I usher in another year I know it is going to be the biggest ever as activate several projects and take on new challenges. Lookin forward to new challenges n charting the way forward to new heights.
In matters family never have I felt close to my folks and siblings...I have a secure veil around me full of love that includes my loving and supportive extended family that I am getting to know.
As for dating hmmm...very soon shall reveal and lookin forward to big day, family and kids...yes kids...and yes I can cook and run a home in heels:-)
For now I wanna leave you with a few words:
#Life is bout choices consistency focus n hardwork si kuangukia
#Men have an important #role to play in our lives but so do we kila mtu ako na kazi yake tusije tukakosana bure
it is indeed #ThankfulThursday wow I lived to c today many didn't so if feeling down rem that n be grateful to Him our Father xxx
Thursday, March 7, 2013
March Nayo
As we await the General Elections results I have time to blog I know been MIA but...Maisha nayo this thing called work that you get to do wen you grow up....you now wonder why as a teen u were in a hurry...as growing up means committment, responsibilities, taxes, bills, responsibilities, bills...did I say bills...
But on the upside, you are now incharge. Able to make your own rules provided you understand that every move you make has a consequence...may it be bad or gud...
I just realized that after march comes April and another year will have passed by for me as I hit the number 31 which if you think bout it is 13 inverted...a number that always associated with doom and bad omen...but with age I am comin to appreciate this number especially as we are in 2013...so for those of you conspiracy buffs out there im sure right now u have a theory for me...well mine say it is a GUD Year for me a gud one for that...
It is the year I know it is ok to say NO and I do it without blinking...It is the year I know what I want and don go for it but Grab it...it is the year that I appreciate life and I am more thankful and not embarrasssed to show it... It is the year I can say it as is...It is the year for big things...
So if you reading this and you been wallowing in self pity and blaming something for something in ur life... grow up and take responsibility...as you alone can chart the way forward...
So let me leave you with my 2 cents....
Me in 2011
As we await the General Elections results I have time to blog I know been MIA but...Maisha nayo this thing called work that you get to do wen you grow up....you now wonder why as a teen u were in a hurry...as growing up means committment, responsibilities, taxes, bills, responsibilities, bills...did I say bills...
But on the upside, you are now incharge. Able to make your own rules provided you understand that every move you make has a consequence...may it be bad or gud...
I just realized that after march comes April and another year will have passed by for me as I hit the number 31 which if you think bout it is 13 inverted...a number that always associated with doom and bad omen...but with age I am comin to appreciate this number especially as we are in 2013...so for those of you conspiracy buffs out there im sure right now u have a theory for me...well mine say it is a GUD Year for me a gud one for that...
It is the year I know it is ok to say NO and I do it without blinking...It is the year I know what I want and don go for it but Grab it...it is the year that I appreciate life and I am more thankful and not embarrasssed to show it... It is the year I can say it as is...It is the year for big things...
So if you reading this and you been wallowing in self pity and blaming something for something in ur life... grow up and take responsibility...as you alone can chart the way forward...
So let me leave you with my 2 cents....
Me in 2011
Me in 2013
As many greats work I am a work in progress, a canvas still bein painted ... xxx MO
Thursday, August 30, 2012
30 Years Old and Lovin It...Four Months On
Wow so I thought turning 30 was daunting, it was! I knew it would be scary! It was at first but I am totally loving it, my body, my life, my family and friends but most of all I LOVE ME!!! THE WAY I AM AND KNOW I AM ENUFF!!! so it took watching Oprah farewell a few months ago and heard a father talk of what he learnt from Oprah Winfrey's show and passed on to daughter, and it was poignant. "I learnt to tell my daughter you are enough the way you are."
So armed with that quote resonating in my head, the light that had started lighting in me, became brighter and I decided, I know who I am and My Purpose and thus God has put me on this earth to do something and I started my Movement.
If I am where I am, this journey that started on January 2009, and have made it then anything is possible.
My new close friends noticed the change and growth in me, my family was a bit wary wondering okay There She Goes Again and I say Yes but this time around my work and impact shall speak for themselves.
For once I was not the one in crisis or having drama, but I have evolved into a confidant, mentor, teacher,life coach, and much more.
This new light has spilled over into my ever growing networks, career and as I shall soon mark one year in on-line news, wow is all I can say.
As a woman we were many hats that we forget to wear the important one: Ourselves and end up losing ourselves striving to please others, society , norms, superiors, children etc. I now know in order for me to be a well adjusted woman and be the daughter, friend, mother to be one day, wife to be one day, career woman, it has to start with me and I have to work on me.
Gone are the days that it is ok to sit and be handed the life you think you deserve, you got to go out there knowing what you want, identify it, focus and grab it and Most Of all HOLD on to it as it can easily slip away.
Another lesson I have learnt, now that I am 30 is not to waste time beating urself up on what could have been, but dwelling all my energy and effort and focus and prayers on WHAT COULD BE and attracting it. Even the most mundane of things, like a favourite dessert.
Life is so full of many possibilities, and once you have decided to focus on YOU, WHAT COULD BE and PUTTING GOD first, then you have the answer to my new found ever smiling self. That and surrounding yourself with positivity and positive people...I am allergic to negativity and keep it far!!!
Wow so I thought turning 30 was daunting, it was! I knew it would be scary! It was at first but I am totally loving it, my body, my life, my family and friends but most of all I LOVE ME!!! THE WAY I AM AND KNOW I AM ENUFF!!! so it took watching Oprah farewell a few months ago and heard a father talk of what he learnt from Oprah Winfrey's show and passed on to daughter, and it was poignant. "I learnt to tell my daughter you are enough the way you are."
So armed with that quote resonating in my head, the light that had started lighting in me, became brighter and I decided, I know who I am and My Purpose and thus God has put me on this earth to do something and I started my Movement.
If I am where I am, this journey that started on January 2009, and have made it then anything is possible.
My new close friends noticed the change and growth in me, my family was a bit wary wondering okay There She Goes Again and I say Yes but this time around my work and impact shall speak for themselves.
For once I was not the one in crisis or having drama, but I have evolved into a confidant, mentor, teacher,life coach, and much more.
This new light has spilled over into my ever growing networks, career and as I shall soon mark one year in on-line news, wow is all I can say.
As a woman we were many hats that we forget to wear the important one: Ourselves and end up losing ourselves striving to please others, society , norms, superiors, children etc. I now know in order for me to be a well adjusted woman and be the daughter, friend, mother to be one day, wife to be one day, career woman, it has to start with me and I have to work on me.
Gone are the days that it is ok to sit and be handed the life you think you deserve, you got to go out there knowing what you want, identify it, focus and grab it and Most Of all HOLD on to it as it can easily slip away.
Another lesson I have learnt, now that I am 30 is not to waste time beating urself up on what could have been, but dwelling all my energy and effort and focus and prayers on WHAT COULD BE and attracting it. Even the most mundane of things, like a favourite dessert.
Life is so full of many possibilities, and once you have decided to focus on YOU, WHAT COULD BE and PUTTING GOD first, then you have the answer to my new found ever smiling self. That and surrounding yourself with positivity and positive people...I am allergic to negativity and keep it far!!!
Thursday, March 22, 2012
Coming of Age, Like Fine Wine
Hey guys,
Well been a while since I blogged in not had the time or inspiration or been too busy living single in Nairobi. AS my 30th approaches a lot of memories come to mind; where I have been and where I am going.
At this point of my life I am enjoying my career, my family and new friends and new experiences.
Well as a Kenyan woman I am proud to live in a country that has afforded me many liberations as I live and work and move freely. But of late the Kenyan woman has been bashed...well it was about time the shoe was on other foot as we the bashed the Kenyan man so much until he had enuf.
Now must say it pinches; as I find myself always on the defensive.
But girls I realized aint cute and ladylike bein defensive. Yes we are jus as capable and are earnin and able do wat they do But....by us bein defensive and self relient we create a hard outer shell and seize being approachable, and the beautiful flower that God placed in His garden.
I also found out that one ends up missin out on the good experiences in life wen u always ready for 'war'.
So in a bid to try and turn and change trends and stereotypes of the Kenyan Man and Woman...I decided to stop wearing armour all tym but be more amour all the tym. I stopped each day to positively seek and find Good Kenyan men and Women and guess wat I did.
Thus my conclusion an attitude change can go a long way and if a number of us embraced it; would be a lovely place to live in.
Armed with this positive attitude looking forward to ushering in the new year in style; I have never felt more alive; more comfortable in my own skin and sexier. Please note these are not platitudes or cliches or self help drivel; I actually feel this way as in my 20s was all over the place one minute, unsure where to fit in caught up in rat race and unable to say NO.
The new me is easy, does things only when want to.
Try it and let me know if my recipe works for u as it is definately workin for me.
For now love you and shall be back soon.
Well been a while since I blogged in not had the time or inspiration or been too busy living single in Nairobi. AS my 30th approaches a lot of memories come to mind; where I have been and where I am going.
At this point of my life I am enjoying my career, my family and new friends and new experiences.
Well as a Kenyan woman I am proud to live in a country that has afforded me many liberations as I live and work and move freely. But of late the Kenyan woman has been bashed...well it was about time the shoe was on other foot as we the bashed the Kenyan man so much until he had enuf.
Now must say it pinches; as I find myself always on the defensive.
But girls I realized aint cute and ladylike bein defensive. Yes we are jus as capable and are earnin and able do wat they do But....by us bein defensive and self relient we create a hard outer shell and seize being approachable, and the beautiful flower that God placed in His garden.
I also found out that one ends up missin out on the good experiences in life wen u always ready for 'war'.
So in a bid to try and turn and change trends and stereotypes of the Kenyan Man and Woman...I decided to stop wearing armour all tym but be more amour all the tym. I stopped each day to positively seek and find Good Kenyan men and Women and guess wat I did.
Thus my conclusion an attitude change can go a long way and if a number of us embraced it; would be a lovely place to live in.
Armed with this positive attitude looking forward to ushering in the new year in style; I have never felt more alive; more comfortable in my own skin and sexier. Please note these are not platitudes or cliches or self help drivel; I actually feel this way as in my 20s was all over the place one minute, unsure where to fit in caught up in rat race and unable to say NO.
The new me is easy, does things only when want to.
Try it and let me know if my recipe works for u as it is definately workin for me.
For now love you and shall be back soon.
Friday, October 28, 2011
MY 9ija Nite at Carnivore
Everyone knows my passion for all things 9ija...the movies, guys, accent, style but most of all I admire how they support each other...their love for each other especially when in foreign land is impressive...we can learn a lot from them.
So when my good friend was organizing 9ija nite at Carnivore...I dropped in and my gals Jakki(My mentor, rock and strength), Laura(beautiful) diva were in tow as I watched a lovely show and made new friends.
The organisers did a great job, the acts impressive and looking forward to another bigger event as the brand grows.
The following are some pics Laura captured for your eyes.
So when my good friend was organizing 9ija nite at Carnivore...I dropped in and my gals Jakki(My mentor, rock and strength), Laura(beautiful) diva were in tow as I watched a lovely show and made new friends.
The organisers did a great job, the acts impressive and looking forward to another bigger event as the brand grows.
The following are some pics Laura captured for your eyes.
Saturday, October 22, 2011
Coming into MY own
Well I always say I am a work in progress and like a phoenix I am rising from the ashes and ready for my rebirth and new life full of new colours and possibilties.
It was not always easy knowing what I want and going after it and holding on to it but now I can. It was not alway easy being comfortable in my own skin and pleasing me but now I can.
As I start my new job and I am totally lovin it...let no one tell u that u cant love it and be there to pay the bills as it will catch up with you. It has taken me a long journey but I am finally where I want to be. I had to know what I want and go for it and be patient enough to wait for it. Faith and belief were key my friend.
I have learnt to also expect a lot more from me and know that I can do it and nothing is impossible. I am and will dream big as I am set for great things.
For the most part I am surrounding myself with positive energy and people as negativity can eat and suck u dry and once done spit u out like curd.
I know if I am positive and looking at glass half full then I will thrive that even when going get's tough, I am able to draw and recharge myself from the reserves been building. There is no way you can do this if something or someone has been eating at you and sucking you dry.
For now with those few words I beg my leave but promise to be back soon.
Feel free to tell me your story.
Stay positive it wears beautifully.:-)))
It was not always easy knowing what I want and going after it and holding on to it but now I can. It was not alway easy being comfortable in my own skin and pleasing me but now I can.
As I start my new job and I am totally lovin it...let no one tell u that u cant love it and be there to pay the bills as it will catch up with you. It has taken me a long journey but I am finally where I want to be. I had to know what I want and go for it and be patient enough to wait for it. Faith and belief were key my friend.
I have learnt to also expect a lot more from me and know that I can do it and nothing is impossible. I am and will dream big as I am set for great things.
For the most part I am surrounding myself with positive energy and people as negativity can eat and suck u dry and once done spit u out like curd.
I know if I am positive and looking at glass half full then I will thrive that even when going get's tough, I am able to draw and recharge myself from the reserves been building. There is no way you can do this if something or someone has been eating at you and sucking you dry.
For now with those few words I beg my leave but promise to be back soon.
Feel free to tell me your story.
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